The Evolution of Courtship

CHAPTER 1I. IntroductionA. DefinitionCourtship is the process or period of courting. through with(predicate) the long time, it is evident that at that place has been a prodigious change in the musical mode lawsuit is do. E special(a)ly in the Philippines, where culture is dynamic and ever-changing, it has to the researchers precaution that there has been great changes in the trend lawsuit is through with(p) between Philippine viriles and females. With this, the researcher would identical to interpret the evolution of causa. The decorate of male and female interaction has changed over the past 100 years, reveal a very sharp contrast in shape and form.One significant argona where this is clearly look inton is in the area of suit of clothes and go break through. In 1896, the develop date was faren to be lower- come a office slang in lengthiness to prostitution. Basi margin cally, expiry on a date was an understatework forcet for paid sex. By the 1900s, the scr ipt Calling (or cause) was introduced into households. Calling was the process of a valet, the suitor, coming into the home of a young adult female to meet her and film to know her and desexualise to know her better and eventually end up marrying her.This was highly preferred by parents since the brush between the homosexual and young adult femalehood was highly administer everything from the length of the meeting to what food they would eat (Discroll, 2009). Further much, it gave parents a sense of resort since it protected adolescents from any kind of danger like rape, and compound the supreme participation of family members. In this, however, the process of courting was non always perfective. It was shapen that it simply placed itself in the households of the rich and not the lower- tell apart (hence the lower discipline slang).It would seem that wooing was in like military earthner expensive an activity for the lower-class. They simply could not affor th e luxury of fine dining in a parlour and/or traveling to meet with their sweetheart (Discroll, 2009). In this, the progression and seeming perfect balance did not last long. As population, poverty, technology, economy, and innovation grew, change in the lower and higher classes rose. Because of this, they had to find much(prenominal) adaptive solutions as to how they would interact and meet with the opposite sex a great change was seen passim the years effectively changing the landscape of courtship.Today, technology has made light interaction even more possible. With the dawn of the internet, hands and women no perennial need to be with each other physically or in the wo domainhoods home to interact it can all be done with a simple click of a few buttons. instanter interpreted into the context of the Philippine setting, changing trends and patterns are not so very much different from their western counterparts. Over the past decades, Filipinos seduce taken a more practica l approach towards the births involved in their lives delinquent to the increased use and innovation of technology and change in societal landscape (Ogena, 1999).So like their western counterparts, no longer do men apply the idea of Chaperonage or Panliligaw (courtship) with the opposite sex. And as patterns charter changed, the principal(prenominal) influencers parents shit found the style of dating more accept qualified (Ogena, 1999). A issue done by UPPL & DRPF called the YAFS (Young Adult Fertility and Sexual report card) for the Philippines exhibited that there was a significant number of adolescents going on dates.Another significant YAFS selective information shows that from 1982 to 1994, a majority of the y come onh (40.4%) group dated but posterior split to single dates (39. 7%) which enabled more intimate encounters with each other, with Filipino teens engaging in sexual activities (9. 7% for males and 2. 9% for females). As dating became a more regular activi ty among the youth, intimacies heightened. This resulted in an increase in the corresponding proportions of the youth engaging in petting and sexual intercourse, 16. 3% and 8. 1%, respectively (De Guzman,1997).B. Significance/ RelevanceIt is clear that Filipinos have changed the way they see courtship. Especially that technology has affected lives of teenagers today that it is now easy to declare with anyone. It is wherefore the researchers privilege to show the evolution of courtship. The study result overly be beneficial to the general public to act them aware of how courtship worked then and now. The study will serve as a reference on the processes, style, and evolution of courtship.C. Research ObjectivesThis research report aims to answer the interrogative 1. How has courtship evolved throughout the years? To answer the question/ problem, the researcher will investigate the following sub-questions 1. What was the courtship process then? 2. What is the courtship process no w? 3. How did courtship evolve throughout the years in terms of a. Process of Courting b. Socialization c. CommunicationCHAPTER 2I. Review of cerebrate LiteratureA. topical anaesthetic LiteratureCourtship is known in the local language as Panliligaw or Ligawan and is also synonymous to pandidiga or digahan from some of the Tagalog-speaking regions in the Philippines. It has rooted from the Spanish word diga which means to to say, express. The term manliligaw refers to a man who tries to court a muliebrity and pursue her for marriage. On the other hand, the term nililigawan refers to the woman who is being pursued, hence, the one being courted.Courtship in the Philippines is known to be moderate and to ba taken under supremacy unlike those of the western cultures. Traditionally, it has been done with the depression step of the man visiting the womans house and presents himself to her parents in an official manner. It is generally unacceptable to most Filipino families to court the woman without knowledge of her family. The most usual trend to be acceptable to the womans family is from the saying courting a Filipina means courting her family too (Business World, 2002).Courtship in the Philippines involves the suitor working hard for his discern even if he has to go through a long time of courtship. Traditional courtship would entail men serenading (harana) the women at night and sing songs of mania and affection (Business World, 2002). Others would give love notes to express their sense of smellings. It would also entail going to the womans house to bring her flowers and other sorts of gifts. And in some cases, men are shown to be courting the womans parents to get their toleration before he could actually court the woman.Courtship allows women to enthrall the attention they get from men by being treated in a special way and receiving gifts from them. Because of this, some women even delay their marriage so that they have more time to experience what its like to be showered with attention and affection. (Molina, 1983 as cited in Courtship in the Philippines Today) Parents and family members are very much involved in courtship because of the Filipino viewpoint that marriage doesnt just involve a man and woman, but their families as well.It became burning(prenominal) for a soul to choose well to enhance his or her familys image. Dating as an activity in courtship, has become very popular, as it was an influence from the western culture. But even before pile were influenced and dating became popular, the Philippines already had come up with its own courting practices. These practices were passes on by their families to use when entering into courtship. (Medina, 2005 as cited in Courtship in the Philippines Today)B. Local StudiesIn a 2012 study entitled E-Courtship A Descriptive Study by Pamela C formerlypcion Panganiban, she explained that when two human beings start developing emotional attachments to one another, the kind o ften tirns from simple friendship to a romantic kind (Tucker, 2008) and once feelings are established between the two parties, the individual then pursues the person his or her interest (Tucker, 2008). It is therefore appropriate to say that when an individual, much like a male, pursues a female, it signifies the act of courtship (Akiteng, N. D. ).Courtship often precedes itself as the give where a male signifies his interest for an established romantic committed relationship with another person or before each can call themselves official. The study of Brinas, Ramirez, and Ty on Ang Proseso ng Pagliligawan (1996) mentioned that there are many primings why men court women. Aside from the usual reason of preparing for marriage, a man courts a woman because starting time, he could be physically attracted to her. Men are visual creatures that is why the physical appearance of a woman whitethorn be a big deal for them.Another reason is he losss to feel loved. A man courts a woman so that he could show love and at the same time, hopes that he receives that kind of love from the woman as well. The next reason is that a man wants to have mortal to be with all the time because men treasure companionship. He wants to have individual to be with because this makes him happy, especially during special moments in his life. A man courts a woman also for his own satisfaction. For a man, a woman seems to be like a reward or a scrap to him. So courting a woman and eventually getting her makes him satisfied.These reasons vary, depending on the person. Looks and physical appearance may be a major performer for some men, but for others, this might just be a bonus. A common reason for a man to court a woman is because he is pressured by his friends and family to get a girlfriendfriend. There are also some men who only want to court women who are enchanting to show them off to the stack around them. This is not an ideal reason to court a woman, but this happens especial ly when the man isnt that produce yet as a person. The last reason is because a man simply has feelings for a woman.(Continuado, Marcos, and Renton, 2007) A 2009 study entitles Courtship Among Emerging Adults in the Philippines Definition, Activities, Influences and Motivations (Fabic, Feliciano, & Nery, 2009), focused on the discrimination of see to iting of the middle and lower class Filipinos about courtship. They conducted surveys from middle class groups and lower class groups living in the slum areas. But according to the results of the study for both male and female, the difference is not that big among the two different groups with their ideas of courtship.Most of them defined courtship as a process of knowing psyche and showing a girl how a guy feels towards her. Proving Social Cognitive Theorys assumption of having different factors (personal and environmental factor) affect that way people behave, act or think towards courtship, the said study found out that the top most factors in their idea of courtship are friends, media, family, and culture. These factors are what motivates them and influences them if they will court someone or if they want to be courted.There is no major difference with the activities done on courtship with those in the middle class and lower class group. Both classes agreed that evanesceing time with the other person, giving gifts, and essentially just putting ones best foot antecedent are the most evident things to be done in the courtship stage. (pp. 78-78) The 2012 study entitled Mix & Match A Descriptive Study of Filipinos Ideals in Social Relationships (Olalia and Ylagan, 2012) also proved how different factors influence a persons behaviour or point of view towards courtship and marriage.Although the study focused on ideals, they concluded that a number of informants share that they patterned their ideal boyfriends or girlfriends and husband or wives from their parents. One male respondent, 27, shared that beca use he grew up in an environment where his mother is more strong-willed than his father, he also wanted a girlfriend who is more strong-willed than him, which is true to his current girlfriend. Another informant (Ellaine, 22) shared that she wants someone who is like her brothers or her father.C. Foreign LiteratureIn the book Boy Meets Girl, Joshua Harris defines courtship as dating with a purpose and a relationship between a man and a woman that has a purpose of being actively and intentionally together to consider marriage. It is a process that has a nidus and a purpose and involves knowing a person better to see if they are dependable for each other, and eventually, if they are, leads to marriage. A courtship can be considered successful when the man and woman find out if they are right for each other or not.They pursue marriage when they find out that they are for each other, and they end the courtship if they see that they are not right for each other. When a man and a woma n understand the purpose of courtship, it is much easier for both of them to move on when their relationship doesnt work out. Courtship is like a new season of friendship. It is something that should be entered into when a man or woman is ready for marriage. According to Joshua Harris, courtship is a relationship guided by the principle that the joy of interest is the reward of commitment. (Harris, 2005)Before courtship actually commences, a man and woman essential have a deeper level of friendship than that of just an acquaintance. Normally, the second phase, or the actual courting stage will be initiated by the man asking permission from the womans father to begin courtship with his daughter, and the mans obvious reason is to know if they both want to get married to each other in the future. The father commonly acts as the initial protective screening test. Both the mans and the womans families must be involved.They ought to understand, through experience, each part of the oth er persons life as much as possible. Instead of interrupting each ones daily routines to make way for their alone time, couples in the courtship stage will most belike try to involve each one in their daily routines. It is heavy for a man and a woman who enter into courtship to have good communication to be able to know where they are in their relationship and how they feel towards each other. If everything is going well, they can spend more time alone together and take on activities like observance movies and concerts, going to the mall or having dinner alone.When men court women, they are usually romantic, and they buy flowers or cards to make the women feel special. When the man gets the blessing of the womans father, he then proposes to her. When the woman accepts the proposal, they would get married and live together as husband and wife. (Gianforte, 2008) Back then, it involved the control of women because its the men who go to their homes to get to know them better.But as courtship evolved into a more free and liberated type, it has now been occurring outback(a) the home, which means its now more of the mans control because he is the one paying for the date. Since women started working and had more time to spend with men outside the house, new rules of engagement were formed where the men were able to take women out on dates. The entire romantic system move out from under the parents supervision, and like an eloping couple, it never wanted to go back. (Gianforte, 2008)In Joushua Harris book I Kisses Dating Goodbye, he described dating as an act of a man and a woman going out to have a good time, nothing more, nothing less. He even added that people date because they want to be able to enjoy the physical and emotional benefits of being intimate without the need to be In a real commitment. This generations pursuit of fulfilment in relationships, especially in dating, is that they want intimacy without the responsibility, sex with no expectations, and love without hard work and sacrifice.(Harris, 2004)Today, the intent of dating ranges from getting to know the person to wanting to marry the person. (Gianforte, 2008) But because of the western influence today, courtship has been delivered to be vanishing. Contrary to that, the said study by Fabic, Feliciano, and Nery (2009), also found out that courting is still manifested in the local society. Depending on the respondents point of view, the definition of courtship will vary but will still lead to a common idea which is the process of a guy expressing how he feels towards a girl by pleasing her, so that in return, the girl will like him back.Prominent among the results is the idea that courtship is still initiated by the men. What varies now is the way men do their courtship especially because the use of technology is already inevitable today. This is what most people refer to now as modern courtship just as revealed in an Asia-wide survey that was conducted during 2002, not only that the Filipinos say I love you through text messaging (Ellwood Clayton, 2006 as cited to court a woman through electronic devices. (pp. 69-70)D. Foreign Studies blush with the emergence of technology that makes it easier for young people to connect with other people, they still prefer the traditional style of courtship. Even if they use technology in communicating with their loves, they still prefer face to face communication and interaction rather than just texting or meeting online.Internet video started with a little film called The Spot by a filmmaker Scott Zzakarin in 1995 (Letizia, 2011). The spot was a simple film and into a two-inch two-inch screen and attributed to it were lol quality images at the same time were not render to handle the flop of Zakarins project, it is considered today one o the first web or webisodes to hit the internet.